Mentoring

Sir Salman Rushdie

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If mentors and mentees are too similar, there may be little value for mentees in terms of knowledge,awareness or capability due to the lack of ‘stretch’ in the relationship.

If mentors and mentees are too far apart,then there is a risk of scheme breakdown due to a lack of empathy, credibility and motivation in both directions.

Both mentor and mentee gain more from the relationship if the  mentee takes the initiative and if he or she expects developmental (as against directive) behaviours from the mentor.

The more passive the mentee and the more directive the mentor, the less successful the relationship.

Salman Rushdie writes:

Those who do not have the power of the story that dominates their lives—power to retell it, rethink it,deconstruct it,joke about it, and change it as times change—truly are powerless because they cannot think new thoughts.

Mentoring can help us explore our story, think new thoughts and realize a new future. Mentoring gives us an opportunity not to be condemned to repeat our pasts.

Mentoring is essentially a voluntary activity.

Mentoring is for the mentee.Attempts to impose agendas on the mentee result in manipulation and social engineering.

Mentors should reflect on their own ethical approach. References can be both external (e.g. a professional body) and internal (own values, situational ).

(Excerpted from Mentoring in Action—A Practical Guide (2nd Edition) [Chapter 1: The Mentoring Framework] by D Megginson,D Clutterbuck, B Garvey,P Stokes and R Garrett-Harris.)

 

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Of Indian diplomats, pat-downs and turbans

The huge stink raised by the Indian press , the TV channels and the Ministry of External Affairs (MEA) regarding the pat-down of Indian diplomats, Meera Shankar and Hardeep Puri, has not abated.

However, it has me wondering about the many ordinary passengers and travellers of Indian or South Asian descent who are subjected to similar humiliation and who silently and stoically bear it simply because they do not know whom to complain to and how to make their voices heard.

I admit to a stab of vicarious delight that our representatives are unwittingly made aware of the ground realities.

Am I alone in feeling this way?

Quote of the day:
If the only tool you have is a hammer, you tend to see every problem as a nail. – Abraham Maslow

Web-services, SOA, BPM & Cloud Computing – XI

Business Process Reengineering Cycle

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The term Business Process Management (BPM) has been buzzing around for quite a while.

What exactly is BPM?

Is it solely about technology?

Or is it more than that?

Yes, BPM is in vogue because the technology to model processes, simulate them, improve them, and maybe even improvise is available in a huge way.

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The Censoring of “Big Boss”: Rakhi Sawant, nobody’s sister!

Censorship in Indian television broadcasting is back and how!

The Information and Broadcasting Ministry has decided to unveil its Puritan ways.

Big Boss IV of Colors fame has been relegated to the 11 pm to 5 am slot.

It seems Rakhi Sawant’s “vulgar language” on her show “Rakhi Ka Insaaf”  too has dissuaded the powers-that-be from considering her as a nice sister who will knot ‘rakhis’ on their heavy hands.

I haven’t actually caught any episodes of either reality shows (not that I had earlier!). Last night’s “Bossy” affair had giant muscle-bound Khali playing bully-boy but wonder of wonders, the bullied weren’t intimidated! In the background, the ‘bleep, bleep’ of censored language conveyed the heated state of the participants.

Throw in a few strangers with giant egos in an artificial pressure-cooker environment ,forced participation and deliberate aggravation ;the producers believed that it would provide mass entertainment.

Come on! Give me and our much-maligned audiences a break! Once the novelty wore out, the participants were soon exposed to be the 15-minutes-of-fame seeking mini-celebrities they were.

Do we really wish to ape the West  in everything we do? Not all American shows translate well and Big Boss—based on Big Brother— is one of them.

The shifting of Big Boss to the wee hours of the night is probably the best thing to happen to Indian television in recent times. Do we really wish to suffer through foul language—bleeped out as it may be— and non-acting on prime time? I think not! Give me fiction any time! Need I harp on this?

You can’t shake hands with a clenched fist.

Mahatma Gandhi

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The Boy Who Never Grew Up!

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Once upon a time there was a boy. He had a lot of friends and a lot of toys.

He never wanted for anything. Life was a breeze. It was full of fun and joy.

Play and school came alike. Parties and games was all he worried about, it was all he thought of.

Then suddenly one day everything changed.

He found that the friends he once had and liked now avoided him.

He found that the toys he had never gave him the kind of joy he used to derive earlier.

The games felt a little jaded; he grew morose.

He could not figure out what had changed.

Why this sudden about turn? What had happened?

Had the world turned topsy-turvy?

Then he heard a voice whisper in his ear:

“No, the world has not changed. Your friends have. They have grown up. They now have their own toys and new friends. They don’t need to play with all your toys anymore. Besides, you were always rude to them and your abrasiveness has not disappeared. You remain a boy; they are now men and women. That is the reality of life; the world doesn’t change, people do, their perspectives do, their lives do.”

And the lad thought “I guess I’m the boy who never grew up!”

PS: Originality of this piece is not guaranteed!

It’s better to be wanted for murder than not to be wanted at all.

Marty Winch

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Certification Bazaar: The Ugly Side

The certification bazaar has  taken off in the Indian IT industry. Courses range from PMI’s PMP, OGC’s PRINCE2 and ITIL, COBIT, TOGAF and BPM.

Purveyors of these courses charge you an arm and a leg; certification and their maintenance will in all probability cost you another arm and a leg.Do you wish to put down that kind of money with the possibility of little or no returns on your investment?

Horror stories of how folks are certified but have no opportunity to practise abound, but at least in some cases, employers are willing to foot the bill to retain the certified hordes. Yet others do not have the said luxury. Would you re-certify yourself if you had to pay from your own pocket?

Marketing emails  sniff out an inkling of a need or a requirement. The tactics could be termed innovative or (if you wish to be critical) , they  smack of desperation.

Courses and their faculty seem to be  disjoint and disparate from the industry and reality.

It’s a chicken and egg situation. Should you  certify and then gain experience on the same? Or gain experience first and then have yourself certified?

What do you think?

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The other bugbear in the Indian IT industry is not sexism, as you would like to believe, but ageism.

Lack of seasoned professionals in the industry and pre-dominance of young professionals is the cause of this malaise.

Churlish behaviour of the young ‘uns only reinforces the impression.

Just another ugly facet of the celebrated success story.

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Quote of the day:
Whatever you do will be insignificant, but it is very important that you do it. – Mahatma Gandhi

How long?

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How long does it take you to pen one of your blog posts or articles?

If I’m starting from scratch i.e. with just an idea, it takes me a long time indeed!

The first cut or draft can easily take me three to four hours. And mind you, it’s just such a mess! I can barely bear to look at my handiwork.

Then begins the process of adding and subtracting, cutting out the extraneous words, adding the right (or the wrong ) adjectives, reducing duplications and correcting grammatical errors.

Quote of the day:
What’s on your mind, if you will allow the overstatement? – Fred Allen

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Random Poetry

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Trampled grass

Squishy soil

Red earth on shoes.

The carpet absorbs it all.

I walk in, barefoot.

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Free fall
Winter nears
Fading leaves
Colors of dawn
The inviting dusk
beckoning into the dark night.

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Cherry blossoms
Japanese spring
A click and a ring;
The chimes of tones
City life , gardens fusion!

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Seasonal changes,
falling leaves.
autumn dawns, the chill bites.
Do you have winter clothes yet, dear?

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Crumbling walls,
sheer grit,
love, the binding force.

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– Linus Fernandes

Two questions

If you’re thinking of building an internet business, you should take a hard look at the following two questions:

If you build it, will they come and keep coming back?

If you don’t, will someone else?

The rest will follow from that.

Have a great day!

A Question Of Intrusion

And you barge back into my life

and tell me how to live my life

and do all the things that I should have done

and you say you’ve changed ,

the years have left its mark,

and you’re different now!

But don’t you think,

that I am too?

Don’t you think you’re intruding? Too!

– Linus Fernandes